"Yom
Kippur:Our Obligation of Teshuvah”
By Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Rosh HaMesivta
As we approach Yom Kippur, our year-long responsibility of doing
teshuvah comes into focus. There are multiple aspects to what needs
to be addressed in doing teshuvah and perhaps three that are often
overlooked.
1. Teshuvah on personality flaws - The Rambam in perek 7
of hilchos teshuvah states
that just as a person is obligated to do teshuvah on acts
of aveirah, so too, is it incumbent upon all of us to
do teshuvah on
certain personality trends which may not express themselves in
particular transgressions.
For example, a person "should examine his thoughts and repent
from anger, from hatred, from jealousy, from folly, from running
after money, honor and the pleasures of the palate."
2. There is a mitzvah to appease one’s friend on Erev Yom Kippur.
Rav Soleveitchik z’tl explains that the word appease is
chosen carefully and is very significant. He explains that our
obligation of piyus on Erev Yom Kippur exceeds
the year-round responsibility of asking for mechilah when
we wrong someone. Classical mechilah is simply
to ask forgiveness and fulfill our legal obligation without bringing
about a complete reconciliation between the parties. The
mitzvah of Erev Yom Kipper is to go out of our
way and bring about a complete reconciliation between ourselves
and the
party that
we injured re-establishing the relationship as if nothing had happened.
Consequently, the common practice of calling everybody up on your “buddy
list” and asking superficially “Are you mochel me?” does
not meet the standard. Our job is not to engage in superficialities
but rather in heartfelt attempts to restore relationships.
Furthermore, one should examine who he approaches on Erev
Yom Kippur asking for mechilah. It is easy to ask our good friends
for mechilah but the responsibility is specifically to do that
which is uncomfortable, namely to approach people that we may not
feel comfortable talking to in the interest of piyus.
3. Our relationship to Hashem. While we are all aware
of the responsibility to do teshuvah on particular aveirahs that
we may have committed privately in violation of halacha,
we must also be aware that Yom Kippur provides
us the opportunity to get closer to Hashem by doing teshuvah on
incorrect ideas about Hashem so commonplace in our society.
As we say our tefilos on Yom Kippur, we must be aware of the following
principles:
1. Hashem is not physical and has no physical characterisitics.
2. Hashem as the all perfect being is not subject to change.
The
posuk in Malachai states “Ani Hashem
lo shanisi – I
Hashem do not change.”
3. The system of reward and punishment is based solely on our adherence
to the Torah way of life. It is wrong for a person to introduce
or believe in practices that have no foundation in halacha as being
efficacious in bringing about cures, financial success, redemption,
etc. As the Am Hashem we are promised ultimate sechar reward for
following the Torah.
Even the notion of teshuvah, tefila, tzedukah should not be understood
superficially. It does not mean that we engage in a charade to “butter
up” Hashem but rather means that if we understand the message
of and improve our ways through these mechanisms, we raise our
level as we approach Hashem and can be zocheh birchas
Hashem.
G’mar
Tov to all.
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